To have an accurate representation of the world around me, my mind needs to be calm and clear. I am able to make wiser decisions by having a clear awareness. Making good decisions enhances my life and makes everything seem more enjoyable and abundant. When my mind is clouded with worry, fear, anger, or apprehension the results are less positive.
Whenever possible, I take the time to calm and center my mind. I wait until my mind is calm and at peace before making big decisions. The more tranquil I feel, the more I can trust my awareness. Each morning, I spend a few minutes thinking about my day and identifying any potential rough spots. I relax and breathe until those obstacles feel manageable. Then I know I can breeze through my day.
My awareness is compromised by emotional disharmony. It is like looking through a stained-glass window. Clearing my mind allows me to see the truth.
When I am feeling emotionally compromised, I spend some time by myself. During this time, I seek joy and peace. I slow my breathing and close my eyes. By controlling my breath, I can control my mind and emotions.
Today, I am feeling more calm, centered, and relaxed. I am able to anchor my awareness in tranquility. I am excited about the day ahead of me. Self-Reflection Questions:
How would being calm, centered, and peaceful boost my awareness and enhance my decision-making skills?
In what ways has poor decision-making made my life more challenging?
What can I do to increase the level of tranquility in my life?
I consider myself my brother’s keeper. I take the needs and challenges of less fortunate people personally. Their well-being is my personal responsibility as long as I am able to help.
I believe that less fortunate people deserve to be treated as equals with everyone else. When I see a homeless person being mistreated, I feel the urge to defend them.
Community service is one of my favorite things to participate in. I like to be a part of initiatives where people’s basic needs are supplied.
Whenever possible, I encourage friends and family members to participate in outreach. When I display supportive behavior for persons in need, I become a role model. That role is one that makes me happy.
I realize that less fortunate sometimes means lacking emotional stability. By providing a listening ear, I help others regain emotional wellness.
When I see someone less fortunate than me, it forces me to be introspective. I step back and take stock of my blessings. I am encouraged to share those blessings.
Today, my duty continues to be provider and protector of those in need. I am committed to helping anyone whose circumstance crosses my daily path. I feel fulfilled in my role as human being when I extend a hand to my brother.
How conscious am I of people’s spiritual needs?
What is my next step when I realize that my efforts are less than enough for someone in need?
What are some other ways I can incorporate outreach into my daily life?
According to most religious traditions and many scientific studies, selflessness is the path to happiness. Still, some people contest that they must put themselves first to avoid getting burned out or feeling like a doormat. This doesn’t have to be true, though!
If you take a sensible approach to selflessness, you can take care of your own wellbeing while helping those around you. Try these techniques and see if you don’t feel just a little bit better about yourself and your life.
Strategies for Avoiding Burnout
Take care of yourself. Protecting your own wellbeing is essential to maintaining the capacity to serve others. Take care of your own physical and mental health so you stay strong and have as many years as possible to do good works for yourself and others.
Develop reliable sources of self-esteem. Cultivate the awareness that you and all creatures have value, regardless of anything you or they accomplish. Tap into inner sources of validation and motivation.
Manage stress. Keeping stress under control allows you to get more done with less effort. Get a full eight hours of sleep each night, or whatever amount you need to keep you operating at your individual best. Engage in regular exercise and find hobbies you enjoy.
Set realistic goals. Become a humanitarian on whatever scale is feasible for you. If the idea of moving to Haiti to work in an orphanage makes you nervous, you can still volunteer to clean up your local park on weekends or help your aging neighbors with their yard work.
Work as a team. When you’re embarking on a challenge, having partners is helpful. Recruit family and friends to join you in starting a community garden where everyone will share the harvest. Then, donate fresh produce to local shelters.
Remember to be grateful. You probably enjoy any opportunity to do something nice for people you love. The more you remember how much your welfare depends on the efforts of others to provide you with food and other necessities, the more you’ll want to give something back to your community.
Meditate or pray. Studies show that decreases in activity in the right parietal lobe of the brain cause people to behave more selflessly – regardless of whether the cause is brain injury, meditation, or prayer. Naturally, you want to steer clear of brain injuries. But anyone can use prayer or secular meditation to strengthen their capacity for altruism.
Strategies to Avoid Feeling Like a Doormat
Make smart investments. Being discriminating about where you choose to give is perfectly okay. You may be more willing to provide free babysitting for a relative who’s going on a job interview rather than for one who’s getting their nails done.
Empower others. The greatest gifts enable people to do more for themselves. Teach your friends how to fix their own minor computer problems. Not only will they be pleased to have that knowledge the next time they need it for themselves, they’ll be able to pass those skills along.
Give without expecting immediate returns. You’re less likely to experience resentment or disappointment if you look beyond getting thanked directly. By focusing on bettering other people’s lives and increasing your own happiness, you’re bound to feel gratified.
Learn to say no. Being selfless is consistent with declining certain requests for assistance. Let people know tactfully, but firmly, when you’re unable to help out. This is especially true in cases where such assistance could be harmful, like giving money to someone who gambles.
Observe positive role models. Generosity is contagious. Pay attention to the acts of kindness you see around you and they’ll inspire you to reach out, too.
Make your life more meaningful and enjoy greater happiness through becoming more selfless. This practice is beneficial for you and everyone you encounter. Giving feels good when you develop positive motivation and make sensible choices.
People who have physical, emotional, or spiritual needs beckon to my charitable side. I see their plights as opportunities for me to give back. My blessings are more satisfying when I am able to give to others.
I am a philanthropist at heart.
My first point of focus is on the people who are poor and suffering. I show love to them by providing them with basic necessities. However, my kindness extends beyond the destitute people to the ones whose hearts are broken. I work with hurting people to get them to a point of healing.
When I am in need of anything, I avoid dwelling on the issue. I channel the energy into helping someone else. I am most fulfilled in giving when I am in need myself.
Special times of year provide a great opportunity to show love. Thanksgiving holidays allow me to help someone else feel special. I realize that a sense of togetherness goes a long way in making people feel included and important.
Giving of my time, resources, and heart defines what it means to be a human being. Sharing what I have with my brothers is a great way to show sincere love.
Today, I commit to looking out for anyone who needs my help. My days are best spent when I am able to share love. I am happy to do my part in building a loving world.
How do I communicate my need for love or support to others?
What are some of the things I can do to expand my charitable effort?
How do I respond when I realize someone is abusing my kindness?
I am grateful for all that my partner brings to my life. I feel loved and supported. My partner makes me feel appreciated and capable.
I am encouraged by my partner on a regular basis. I can count on my partner to be there for me whenever I am in need. My partner is a blessing.
My family is kind and loving. I receive all the support I need from my family at all times. I am blessed with an amazing group of people that I call my family. I always feel safe and protected.
My friends are an amazing gift. I have an endless supply of friendly ears willing to listen to my problems. My social life is awesome, and I am fortunate to enjoy a large group of friends that make my life fun and interesting.
Today, I give thanks for my loved ones. I recognize all of the benefits they provide to my life. How lucky I am to be loved by such a wonderful group of people!
I am excited to spend time with my partner and my family today. I choose to see them as gifts that light up my life.
What do I love and appreciate most about my family? What would my life be like without my family?
What do I love and appreciate most about my partner? What would my life be like without my partner?
What else could I appreciate about my family and my partner? What have I been failing to acknowledge?
It is important to share a moment in my journey. Yesterday I took a physical step in the spiritual journey. Healing comes in many ways: mentally would be accountability, physically would be to exercise, and spiritual would be to acceptance!!! These 3 areas have been the focus for me in recent years. It has been a long journey and I wouldn’t change any growing pains. I can only describe the feeling I have now; it’s powerful, peaceful & so joyful!! The journey continues & I will not stop discovering new part of me.
At 18 I wanted to get a tattoo because of course “I was grown” I had no idea what to get. So long story short I got a Japanese symbol for Dangerous- as a caution for all!! It was definitely a representation of who I was at that time. Recently it began to bother me; it’s felt like the old energy was blocking my growth. I felt like it was time for a change. It took about 3 months to find a replacement but like everything- what I truly need comes in its own time!!
I removed the Dangerous
I got A lotus flower growing from a semicolon!!!
The lotus flower emerges from murky waters perfectly clean and beautiful, so it is also a symbol for purity. Like how all humans are born into a world of suffering. They must learn to overcome difficult times so that they can become a better person and reach spiritual enlightenment. The semicolon tattoo represents the fact that you have complete power over yourself, and can choose to keep fighting, even if you feel like giving up and putting a period on your life.
Being present in each moment allows me to have days that are fulfilling. Conscious involvement in each thing that I do encourages positive decision making. When I meditate, it helps me to set my intentions for the day ahead.
Each morning gives me a chance to define my purpose in life. The quiet time when I wake up helps me to formulate a plan for making the most of my time.
Meditation allows me to connect to my inner beliefs. Having that connection reminds me to focus on what I truly value. I live according to what I believe is wholesome and just.
When I look within, I consider the impact that my actions have on my circle of influence. My focus is on being a positive influence for those people.
As I meditate, I realign myself with that focus and commit to living positively for the day. I encourage my subordinate at work and extend a helping hand to those who are less fortunate.
Quiet time at the end of each day also helps me to re-center myself. Reflection allows me to identify shortcomings and develop a plan of action to overcome them.
Today, I acknowledge that there is significant value in meditation. Being able to focus on my inner being is helpful in allowing me to experience rewarding days.
What activities can I engage in to enhance the value of meditation?
How do I realign with my belief system after an emotionally challenging day?
In what ways can I incorporate meditation throughout the course of the day?
Maybe Superman can leap tall buildings in a single bound, but most humans need a little help to reach the top floors.
Elevators help us make our way around shopping malls, parking garages, hotels, and office complexes. Similarly, meditation can smooth our path in life. Take a few minutes to explore these reflections inspired by elevators.
Meditations on Heading Up or Down:
You’ve probably heard the saying that it’s impossible to stand still. You’re either making progress or you’re backsliding. There’s a reason why the elevator alarm goes off if you just sit there in the lobby.
Pick a priority. Take one area of your life where you want to make a change. Maybe it’s your parenting style or a health issue.
Envision your future. Imagine where you’d like to be in a month or 5 years from now. Think short and long term.
Write down a plan. Develop a concrete strategy to support your new resolution. Put it down on paper or carry it around in an app on your phone. Look at it when you need a reminder or want to evaluate your performance.
Meditations on Taking Control:
Those elevator buttons that claim to close the doors are usually fake. Scientists and interior decorators have discovered that humans feel happier when they have a sense of control.
Examine your concerns. What is currently causing anxiety in your life? Do you find yourself distracted thinking about car payments or your child’s report card?
Assess your needs. Outline what you require to feel calm and empowered. Reducing your monthly expenses or increasing your skills could give you more security.
Soothe yourself. Take time out to relax and restore. Regular breaks make you more centered and productive. Stop for a cup of tea or spend an hour working on your hobby. Dissolve stress with a warm bath or a few laps in the pool.
Meditations on Elevator Pitches:
Are you ready to make a positive impression on a potential employer or a new friend if you’re both headed to the same floor? Work on your brand.
Identify your values. Figure out what’s important to you. Shorten your to do list if you need to free up more hours for the activities that you find meaningful and nurturing.
Inventory your strengths. Understand what you have to contribute to the world. Ask yourself what you’re good at and what you like to do. Research careers that would allow you to draw on your signature strengths.
State your mission. Pull your thoughts together into a compelling brief summary of who you are and what you do. Revisit the statement every 6 months to see if it’s still accurate.
Meditations on Inactivity:
The downside to elevators is that they sometimes make us less active if we avoid using the stairs for short trips. Try staying on your feet and walking around for this practice.
Burn more calories. Look for ways to work more physical activity into your daily routine, and make your exercise sessions more consistent. Give your kitchen floor a good scrubbing instead of the usual quick mopping. Sign up for a dance class or buy a treadmill.
Shrink your waist. Abdominal fat can be especially harmful to your health. Lose excess weight and do exercises that target your core.
Build your muscles. Muscles burn more calories than fat even when you’re at rest. Train for strength with weight lifting and sprinting. Remember that meditation and elevators are both uplifting experiences. Even a few minutes on your cushion or in an elevator can make a dramatic difference in helping you reach your destination.
My community plays a big part in my life and I jump at the opportunity to give back each chance I get.
My family and I take part in community functions, such as the Sunday pancake breakfast and the yearly Easter egg hunt for the children.
Though it may seem trivial to outsiders, these events are at the core of our community.
I strongly believe that a neighborhood is only as good as its residents. And I am proud to say that I am setting an honorable example.
I organize fundraisers for our local schools. This money is put towards providing the neighborhood children with a better education. Therefore, I feel that it is a necessary task and I plan on continuing my efforts for years to come.
I understand that the involvement of the next generation will determine what our town will be like 30 years from now. So, it is important to instill a strong sense of community in them from their youth.
Giving back to my community gives me a sense of pride. It makes me feel as if I am where I belong, doing what I am supposed to do. My town is more than a small dot on a map; it is the place my family calls home.
Voting is a very important part of being an active community member. Voting is the one thing I can do in my chaotic life to make an impact on the world I live in.
It is my responsibility to contribute to keeping this community thriving for years to come. One person can truly make a difference, and right now that person is me!
Today, I reach out to my community. I choose to be active in my community and make a difference. I encourage others to do their part in making our community one that we can be proud of.
Do I regularly volunteer my time in the community?
Which events can I take charge of organizing?
Do I plan on staying in this neighborhood for years to come?
I acknowledge that the only person I have complete control over is me! I cannot control the thoughts, opinions, or actions of others. However, I can control my reactions to whatever life throws my way.
I let go of my desire to control situations and I refuse to allow frustration to cloud my mind. Instead, I choose to focus on what I can do in any given situation.
Even though I cannot control everything, I am not powerless. I still have tools that help me direct my life toward achieving my goals, regardless of life’s distractions.
My time management skills keep me focused and organized. I allow time in my schedule for dealing with distractions without losing my focus on my priorities.
Affirmations are another tool that helps guide my life to where I want to go. Regardless of what life throws at me, I can replace any negative thoughts that creep in with positive ones.
Even in hectic times, I can use breathing exercises, relaxation techniques, and meditation to restore peace and harmony to my soul.
I also use my optimistic outlook on life to find the silver lining in everything.
With these tools at my disposal, I know I can go with the flow, whatever that flow might bring! I do not need to have control over anyone but myself to enjoy life with all its blessings and challenges!
Today, I choose to focus on controlling only myself and discover how joyful life can be without any desire to control others.
Do I feel I need to control others for my day to go smoothly?
I treasure each moment. I am committed to living in the present.
I put aside past disappointments and expectations for the future. I focus on what is happening right now. I give my full attention to whatever I am doing.
I train myself to breathe fully and deeply. I slow down. I notice the air entering and exiting my nostrils. I fill my abdomen and chest with each inhalation and let them sink with each gentle exhalation. I create a soothing rhythm.
I observe my environment. I am thankful for the beauty of flower gardens and the efficiency of my local hardware store.
I listen attentively when others speak to me. My relationships prosper when I try to understand and validate others.
This moment helps me strengthen my health. I savor my food and delight in the colors, textures, and flavors. I sip my tea slowly and fill my plate with nutritious and tasty vegetables and fruits. I check my posture, and incorporate physical activity into my regular routine. I act promptly if I see any warning signs of illness or injury.
I realize that stress or contentment comes from my thoughts rather than from external forces. I am at peace as long as I accept what each moment brings. Sometimes I am comfortable and sometimes I learn and grow by overcoming challenges.
Today, I free myself from old habits and assumptions that could hold me back. I appreciate each moment for what it is.
How do I define being completely present?
Why does meditation strengthen my capacity for living in the moment?
How does living mindfully change my daily experiences?
Stillness soothes my body and mind. I slow down. I move more smoothly and deliberately. I pause in between one activity and the next. I give my body a chance to stretch and offer my mind an opportunity to switch gears. I revisit my priorities so I can choose what project to tackle next instead of being caught up in a rush. I focus on my breath. I inhale and exhale slower and deeper. I scan my body for any areas of soreness or tension. I lower my shoulders and straighten my back. If my jaw is clenched or my brow is furrowed, I gently untighten them. I massage my feet and hands. I thank them for all the work they do for me. I check for eye strain. I look at an object far off in the distance and then another object up close. I feel my eyes relax. I repeat an inspiring mantra. I engage with 1 the beauty that surrounds me. When possible, I enjoy a little solitude. I walk in the park or sit on a bench. Even if I am surrounded by a crowd, I can take a break. I plug in my ear buds and listen to gentle instrumental music or a recording of spiritual chants. I close my eyes for a second and picture a garden or a mountain trail. Today, I surrender to silence. Engaging in quiet moments helps me to think clearly and feel at peace.
Why is it important for me to take breaks?
How can I incorporate regular breaks into my work day?
Where can I find some spots in my neighborhood to enjoy a quiet moment?
In today’s world, it can feel like everything is moving faster and faster. Many people spend so much time caring for others they forget to care for themselves. Is it any wonder, then, that we’re feeling more stressed and unbalanced than ever? How do we achieve balance and wellness?
The key to healing in these troubled times isn’t a new pill or book or exercise. It comes from within. YES, you have the power within you! When you take the time to harness that power through wellness practices, you can bring out your best self, and help the people around you do the same.
In a world that’s constantly putting us down or making us feel small, it can be a revolutionary act to claim that power. You may be thinking that there’s nothing you can do. That you’re also stuck in your ways. That this is all life has to offer you. I’m happy to tell you that you’re wrong! I can help you unlock that balance so you can be happier, healthier, and more at peace.
The good news is you don’t have to do it alone. We’re all in this together. Indeed, when we work together to create the world we want to live in, we can make that world a reality.
In this blog, I’ll share with you everything I’ve learned about what it takes to find the right balance of wellness. From there it’s just a matter of using your imagination. Join me, and let’s claim our power back from those who called us weak or helpless! Let’s show them what strength — true strength — looks like.
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My mantra has always been “Balance is Key”. Life is full of ups and downs. There is no light without darkness, after all. This isn’t about always being positive or always being happy. Indeed, true power comes to those who embrace that spiritual balance and are willing to rise above what life throws at us.
Just like any other power, this is something you have to integrate into your everyday life and start practicing for it to become a part of you. This is learning how to be at peace within yourself, even when things are not going your way.
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It is important to share a moment in my journey. Yesterday I took a physical step in the spiritual journey. Healing comes in many ways: mentally would be accountability, physically would be to exercise, and spiritual would be to acceptance!!! These 3 area have been the focus for me in recent years. It has been a long journey and I wouldn’t change any growing pains. I can only describe the feeling I have now, it’s indescribable!! The journey continues & will not stop, discovering new part of myself or how I’m effected by old stuff is amazing!!
At 18 I wanted to get a tattoo because of course “I was Grown” I had no idea what to get. So long story short I got a Japanese symbol for Dangerous- as a caution for all!! It was definitely a representation of who I was at that time. Recently it began to bother me, it’s felt like the old blocking the new. That’s the energy I felt, so it was time for a change. It took about 3 months to find a replacement but like everything- what I truly needs come in it’s own time!!
I removed the Dangerous
A lotus flower growing from a semicolon!!!
The lotus flower emerges from murky waters perfectly clean and beautiful, so it is also a symbol for purity. Where all humans are born into a world of suffering where they must learn to overcome difficult times so that they can become a better person and reach spiritual enlightenment. The semicolon tattoo represents the fact that you have complete power over yourself, and can choose to keep fighting, even if you feel like giving up and putting a period on your life.
Regardless of what happens, I know I will come through. I feel confident that I have all the tools I need to meet any challenges that may come my way. If I ever doubt that I can handle a situation, I quickly remind myself that I am resilient and resourceful.
Resilience and resourcefulness are more than just ideas to me. They are character traits that I manifest in abundance. After all, I have experienced challenges before, and here I am, alive and well.
When I look back over my life, I take time to contemplate the many ways in which I answer the different questions that arise in my life. I am acutely aware of the courage and strength required to make some of the decisions I make regularly. I always credit myself where credit is due. This gives me even greater self-knowledge and strength.
When facing a new challenge, I ask myself what resources could assist me. I look not only to my friends and family, but also within. Then, using the tools available to me, I act decisively and with courage.
If a situation has an outcome that I am less than pleased with, I remind myself that I can make it through this successfully, like I always do. Each day, I get a new opportunity to demonstrate my resilience and resourcefulness.
Today, I am confident that I can meet any challenge that arises. I know in my heart that I am resilient and resourceful. I demonstrate courage and strength in all that I do.
In what ways do I demonstrate resilience and resourcefulness?
In what situations might I benefit from manifesting greater courage?
What tools are available to me that I currently do not use or use very little?